When it comes to deciding child custody, no factor is more important the
court than the
best interests of the child. Many divorce clients locked in a custody battle are confident in their
parenting abilities, their history of caring for their child, and their
presentation to the court-- only to be blindsided when they realize that
other, seemingly unrelated behavior has counted against them. Let's
take a look at three common behaviors that can derail a divorce client's
fight for a preferred custody arrangement.
When anticipating a custody battle, it is advisable to avoid:
Vindictive behavior towards your spouse. Volatile feelings towards your spouse are a common part of the divorce
process. However, when considering the best interests of your child, the
court wants to know that each parent can encourage a child's relationship
with the opposite parent. If there is a record of you sending hurtful
messages to your spouse, or that you have been talking badly about them
to others, it is likely that the court will be skeptical of your ability
to provide objectivity to your parenting.
Making a parental decision without communicating. By the time a divorce hearing is occurring, it common for spouses to
be already living apart and sharing some parenting duties. During this
uncertain time, it is critical that you continue to make a cooperative
and communicative effort with your spouse. Even simple actions-- like
picking a child up from school, or rescheduling a doctor's appointment--
without the other parent knowing can demonstrate to the court that you
are incapable of collaborating with your co-parent.
Moving in with a significant other. When children are involved, countless divorce decisions are made in an
effort to provide a certain comfort and continuity to a child's upbringing.
If you have already moved in with a new significant other (or allowed
a new significant other to move into your residence), then the court will
certainly question your ability to provide a stable and trustworthy environment
for your child.
If you are concerned about your petition for child custody and want proven,
dedicated counsel by your side, contact us at
Beckum Kittle LLP. We pride ourselves on attentive, compassionate, and, when necessary,
aggressive representation in pursuit of our client's family law goals.
We can ensure that your voice is heard and that you and your children
are given every consideration they deserve during this difficult time.
Don't hesitate to start protecting your family.
Contact us today to request a free case evaluation.